Monday, January 14, 2013

Dr. H.C. Neuswanger

My Grandpa passed away December 21st.  He was an amazing, strong, compassionate man and is dearly missed, but I'm thankful he has a heavenly body that once again matches his strong spirit.  Levi and I flew to CO the day after Christmas for the funeral, which was a very sweet time remembering Grandpa, being with family and saying goodbye to both Grandparents as we buried their ashes.  Below is the talk my Aunt Deb gave at the funeral.  There is nothing more I can say to explain who Grandpa was.  I think its a pretty interesting story!

Such a handsome guy!

 Henry Clayton Neuswanger


March 25, 1922 – December 21, 2012
Life Story                                                                                          

     Henry Clayton Neuschwanger was born on the family homestead, five miles south of Eckley, Colorado, on March 25, 1922.  His parents, James and Stella (May) Neuschwanger, homesteaded in Yuma County in the early 1900’s.  James came with his brothers from Kansas.  Stella came on the train with her cousin from Kentucky.  Stella was a school teacher before her marriage; Jim was a farmer, as were his brothers and cousins who also homesteaded in Yuma County.  They were dirt poor, like their neighbors, trying to survive on dry land farming.
     Jim and Stella had two sons, Henry and Charles.  Stella disliked nicknames and insisted that the boys be called by their given names.  Henry and his cousin, Dallas Godsey, arrived 1 month apart, and have been fast friends ever since.  When Henry was about 3 months old, his mother heard an odd sound coming from the crib – the baby had learned to whistle! 
     When Henry was 6 years old, the family moved to Michigan with Jim and Stellas’s siblings, Raymond and Rosa (Neuschwanger) May and family.  The two families shared a house on a small farm overlooking Lake Michigan, near Charlevoix, MI.  Henry loved living in Michigan – a forest of trees surrounding them, an orchard, sleigh rides in winter to get to town.  He found an old pair of skis on the property and rode them straight down the hill – and he never skied again.   After one year, Henry’s folks returned to Colorado, just in time for the Dust Bowl and the Great Depression. 
     They farmed with a team of horses and the boys rode horseback to school.  One year, a neighbor fell ill; and every morning before school, Henry was sent to do the milking for that family after chores at the home place were done.  When the teacher admonished him for falling asleep in class, another student said, “Leave Henry alone – he’s milking for two families.”   
     In 1939, Charles, age 15, died when a sandbank collapsed on him while he and two buddies were digging out coyote pups. Stella said she cried all the tears she had when Charles died.  All the Neuschangers remember that time vividly, but no one recalls ever talking about it with James, Stella or Henry.  Cousin Weldon Neuschwanger says that they were always very quiet, sober people.  Life was hard for everyone in those days, Weldon recalls, and there was not much time for fun.
     Because the Eckley, CO, homestead was so far from town, and the family had no car, Henry and Charles lived in town during the school year when they were in high school, and “batched” with two other boys – Dallas Godsey and Henry’s other best buddy, Ted Sutter.  Henry was an “A” student and an athlete, with a beautiful bass voice.  He graduated with Dallas and Ted from Eckley High in 1940.  Henry stayed home from college one year to help his folks – he thought it would be too hard for his folks if he left so soon after Charles’ death. 
     In 1941, Henry went to Greeley to college, where he worked in the rooming house cafeteria in exchange for room and board, took up gymnastics, and planned to become a math teacher.  He said he was always interested in veterinary medicine, but since there was no money for school, he settled on teaching.  After Pearl Harbor, and after he had received his draft notice for the Army, Henry volunteered for the Army Air Corps.  The officer at the recruiting station stopped the clock at 5 minutes to closing to swear him in.
Henry was a second lieutenant, who trained as a pilot on the B-25 bomber, which he loved flying; but to his profound disappointment, he was later transferred to the C-47 transport.  American leadership anticipated the loss of many C-47’s during the D-Day invasion, so more replacement pilots were needed.  Henry flew missions over Europe from England during WWII, towing gliders and carrying paratroopers and supplies over; and bringing back wounded and prisoners. 
     Henry knew how hard it would be for his mother, having so recently lost Charles, and fearing for Henry at war, so he wrote home every day.  His mother saved all those letters, which Hank’s son, Kurt, has transcribed.  Hank never flew a plane again after he left the service, and unless asked, seldom spoke about his experiences during the war.  Upon his discharge in 1945, his commission as a first lieutenant finally came through.
     After the war, Hank returned home to find his parents exhausted from running the farm and caring for his grandfather.  He moved the grandfather in with other relatives, and bought a pretty little 5-acre place for his folks in Boulder.  Once the Eckley homestead was sold, he headed out to see the country in his pick-up truck, traveling around much of the US.
     Somewhere in the South, Hank got on a city bus and took a seat in the rear.  The driver stopped the bus and admonished him for sitting in the colored section.  Hank retorted that he had not fought the Nazis in Europe just to tolerate the same kind of behavior at home.  When the driver refused to proceed unless he changed seats, Hank got off the bus and walked.
     While working in the salt mines under Detroit, he volunteered his time to make carpentry repairs to a house occupied by American Friends Service Committee volunteers.  One of those was a vivacious college graduate from Cleveland, OH, Cornelia Lybarger.  At the end of the summer, “Corky” and her girlfriend “Mike” hitched a ride west with Hank to Colorado.  When they arrived, Hank’s mom was surprised to discover that Hank’s buddies were both girls!   
     A year later, on June 25, 1949, Henry and Cornelia were married in Cleveland.  They returned by train to Ft. Collins, where Hank entered vet school at “Aggies” (Colorado A&M, now CSU) on the GI bill.  The newlyweds lived in a trailer park for war vets on campus, built by Hank and other WWII vets.  They lived in a tiny trailer, and shared a shower house with other residents.  During these years, two daughters were born – Debra in 1951 and Willa in 1953. 
     As graduation approached, Hank decided to change the spelling of his surname by removing the “ch” to make it easier for strangers to find his name in the phone book.  Then he ended up returning to Yuma County to start a veterinary practice, where everyone had known him since birth! 
     Hank and Corky moved to Wray in 1954.  With the help of banker, Raymond Mullison, they bought a little house and two acres on the east edge of town between the railroad tracks and the highway. Hank had a tiny office and operating room in the back of the garage, replaced in the mid-1960’s by a vet clinic on the same property.  After son Kurt was born in 1957, Hank dug out another basement bedroom by hand, carrying the dirt up in buckets, with help from his brother-in-law, Lee Lybarger. 
     Hank was a classic country vet, practicing out of the back of a pick up truck with a homemade shell, fitted out to hold his vet instruments, buckets, lariats, etc.  He worked long, hard hours, treating sick animals in all weather, at all hours – usually the coldest and darkest! – in pastures or sheds with no light or heat, miles from town, out in the sandhills of Yuma County.  He also charged like a country vet, which is to say not much, often carrying a balance for long periods for clients unable to pay.  He treated farm and ranch livestock and also family pets.  Gradually he built up a loyal clientele of crotchety old ranchers who swore they would never let any physician but “Doc” touch them or their animals! 
     Corky and Hank were pillars of the Wray community – active in the Methodist Church, both singing in the choir for 50 years.  Hank was a lifelong member of the Wray Lions Club, and with several others, developed a natural amphitheatre which he discovered in his pasture.  The Wray Lions Amphitheater became home to a local acting troupe, the Cliff Dwellers. The remarkable story of how this amphitheater was built by local volunteer labor and donated materials, with no government funding, was featured in a story that ran in the old Denver Post Sunday Empire Magazine.
     While their kids were growing up, there was a procession of unusual pets, including a baby skunk, a badger, and a baby bobcat, which grew up with son Kurt, and eventually became a rug on Kurt’s bunk bed.  There were also a pair of dachshunds (Spud and Robin) and an endless supply of German Shorthairs, as well as a bloodhound named Billy Buzz Bomb who could climb corral fences, and once got stuck up there over the stock tank, baying balefully!  Buzz also rescued toddler, Kurt, who wandered into a sticker patch on his way to the railroad tracks.  As Corky and Hank were frantically searching, they heard Buzz sounding the alarm.
     Hank, by contrast to his extroverted wife, was stoic and silent, extremely reserved, gruff in manner, with little to say, even – or especially – to his family.  Still, his children and grandchildren are all filled with deep affection for this good man who was their father and grandpa.  His character was evident in his every action throughout his life.  He was honest, upright, absolutely dependable, trustworthy and responsible, utterly unassuming, generous and kind.  He was a loyal son, a faithful husband, and a good father.
     Hank’s grandson, Chris Stillwell, also quiet by nature, says that with Grandpa, he could just be himself – no explanations necessary, because Grandpa understood him.   Chris said that when he was a teenager, it was the thought of Grandpa that stopped him from getting into trouble.  “I couldn’t bear to disappoint him,” he says.  Granddaughter Jillian’s husband, Nathan Hage,r wrote:  “Grandpa seemed like the kind of guy I'd be able to sit down with, introduce myself, and then we'd just sit, having understood each other already.”
     Henry believed in making do with what you have at hand, had no use or need for luxury in any form, never wasted anything, and taught his kids to always leave a place better than you found it:  Pick up your trash and pick up other people’s trash before you leave!  He was the genuine article, like many of his generation:  The offspring of homesteaders and pioneers, a product of the Great Depression, the Dust Bowl, and WWII. 
     Corky and Hank had been married for 61 years when she died in October, 2010.  Soon after, Hank moved to Good Samaritan Retirement Village in Loveland to be near family.  In early December, 2012, Hank held his namesake, great-grandson, Henry William Hager, 4 months old, for the first and last time.  Near dawn on 12-21-2012, the winter solstice, Henry Clayton Neuswanger slipped away in his sleep.  As Nathan wrote, “Another cowboy has ridden into the sunset.”


5 Months!

Levi was none too sure about the camera this time...

LEVI at 5 months:

~Is a happy, smiley boy.  For a while he'd have sweet cooing conversations with anyone who would stop talk to him.  But since his motor skills have improved, he's much too busy trying to touch his world!

~His eczema is looking much better, now he has only a mild rash and no rough patches.  His cradle cap came back with a vengeance, too, but a stiff combing and a rough scrubbing keeps that in check nicely.

~Sleep...oh sleep.  Levi's sleep schedule, which had been wonderful since birth, was broken right before he turned 4 months.  No idea what happened.  We walked with him for hours, let him stay up late with us, tried to put him down early, left him to cry it out for 3 nights (KILLED me. I'm a strong mommy, but that had me in tears.) and NOTHING worked.  He would scream until he fell asleep out of pure exhaustion.
     And then all of a sudden he was fixed.  WHAT!?!  One night he went down after his last feeding without fighting sleep and SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT!!!  He doesn't always stay asleep, but it he does wake up we go into him every few minutes to reassure him he's not alone and that we love him, and he's back to sleep within the hour.  Not sure what changed, but MAN I'm glad we're done with that stage.  It was bad.

~Is officially into 6-9 month clothes.

~Rolled from his back to him tummy for the first time on Jan. 4, but can't do it consistently yet.  (Which is good, 'cuz I have a feeling I'll be spending my time chasing a rolly-polly across the floor once he can do it whenever he desires!)

~Has a tooth poking through!  (Which could maybe explain the nights time screamies...)

~Took his first airplane ride at the end of December.  My Grandpa passed away on the 21st, so Levi and I flew to Denver the day after Christmas while Kurt stayed home with Grace.  It was a bittersweet time. Nice to see family and the hometown, but sad to say goodbye to Grandpa.  I am VERY thankful that his spirit is once again housed in a healthy, vibrant body.
     Levi was a pretty good traveler   I think he screamed through security both coming and going, but wasn't overly fussy on the plane.  He slept in the moby wrap through the entire funeral service, and slept in the car while we buried Grandma and Grandpa's ashes in the FREEZING wind.  I couldn't ask for more.


Grace is getting more and more verbal everyday.  Its shocking, really!  Here are a few of our favorite "Grace-isms":

~While watching Kurt and I eat sandwiches, Grace asked for "Bwead and cheese."  I got her half a bun, put some cheese on top and handed it to her.  She looked at me and said "C'ose it, Mommy.  C'ose it" while indicating she want the top bun.  What a smart way to use her vocabulary for what she needed!

~One day, while I was making Bumps on a Log for her lunch, Grace exclaimed excitedly to Kurt "Yook at my dinnuhs, Daddy!"

~We've been teaching her to say excuse me when she toots or burps.  So every time she does, she says "Mixin me."  Generally, we think that means excuse me.  ;)